As I pen down today, my heart grieving with the pain of the loss of two fellow students at college, all I feel and all I remember is the thought of their friends.
Everyone encountered, thought of the agony of parents, brothers, sisters and everyone else in the family; precisely, the blood-relations, but who really thinks of the great deal of bonding that one begins to share with those he lives with by CHOICE!
I do not disagree to the fact that the loss of their parents and family is enormous, but in no state of mind am I convinced that the loss of their friends is questionable.
We are the blooming little flowers at homes, and parents do every bit of possible care, deeply sprinkling affection. We are nourished with the thoughts and ideals they carried for ages, and got accustomed to.
We go out for education or some other reason, and this happens to be the turning point of lives...the Blind-Turn!
We make choices, learn from mistakes and grow up as individuals. We follow our hearts, sometimes the mind, and sometimes fish around to stick to one of the two competitors - mind or heart. The entire life seems to be now stringing well and taking shape of a beautiful pearl lace. All of them distinct, but all of them together. And when such a disaster takes its toll and snatches out one pearl of them, the whole string is left broken and smashed.
Today, when the world cries to the harsh incidents they happen to witness by the so-called “their own”, all the young hearts tend to believe is the bondage they formed with someone on their own. Although, in no way can one deny the place the relatives own, but the place their friends inscribe in their hearts is also in no way diminished.
We learn of individuality, objectivism, self-oriented causes and we in reality nurture their thoughts within, but the feeling of belonging that takes a strong deal, the most important, most sacred, and most relied upon relation the world would ever see – Friendship, is above all.
What happens to you, certainly matters to those who are the reason for your existence, but how does that relate to someone’s pain too? Your happiness brings joy to the family, but how does it render a glow to someone’s face? The times you are sad, and you prefer not letting it be known to your parents a distance away, you are through just by the site of those few whom you feel can at least bring you out of the gloomy mood, if possibly not solve it, and let you in a state where you find the same problem a child’s play.
To write what a friend is, is endless. To think what he can do for you is regardless. And to try to rate his importance in worthless.
The purest of all forms of relations, mankind could ever come across, leaving behind the bars of selfish motives, jealousy induced hatred, competition for life-n-death, is friendship in true sense.
May be this sounds to be a piece of immature writing, a juvenile attempt, but this only means to draw out the picture of the drastically increasing feeling of oneness among people who you feel you are blessed to meet, and the people who you cry for on their untimely departure.
We all just try to create a kindergarten for each of us, where all we knew was to play together, and not play with someone’s feelings; all we did was to believe in being together, and not how to get rid of someone; all the pain we had was of falling and getting hurt, and not being ditched about; and all we had was happiness, most wonderful.
Let’s just move back to our own world, our own place. Let’s create our own world, where someone dies along with you in the effort to bring you back. Where someone mourns for you on the sight of you lying dead in their arms. Where someone wishes to die in your place. And where someone cries it all in the heavens above, looking down at his friends in pain. :’(
Cheers to friendship, cheers to life...
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I was once explaining a friend as to how important my friends are for me...and i remember telling her things that i read in the above post. If i had to write something on this topic, i would pretty much write the same things.
Memories are forever they simply never die...
True friends stay together they never say goodbye.
Friendship was, is and will remain the best of the relations ever witnessed and experienced by the mankind. And after all this incident i can say proudly- humanity still exists and may it be alive in future too.
The need of the hour is that we need to support and bring out those remaining guys out of this phase and help them get over this. At each and every walk of life friends are involved someway or the other. Even today inside the class the place where he used to sit was kept empty and knowingly/unknowingly it was felt that yes something is not in order today.. where did the hooting disappear, bunks planning all gone, class is going to get over and graffiti under the tables has not come out yet!!! and questions endlessly hammering inside this 1400gm brain! :(
Death, although considered a sort of a taboo, is a part of our being. Even though it separates lives and hurts excessively when its in a such an untimely and sudden turn, but its still something that can and perhaps should be dealt with more grace. The prevalent fear of death and the hesitation in even looking at the corpse is somewhat derogatory. One day you got out with the same person, laugh with them, dance with them, and a couple of days later refuse to even look at their faces. No one can deny the fact that it's endlessly painful for the close friends and the kin of the deceased but acceptance of the incident and taking it in the correct spirit is what the society needs to learn. It's sad, it's unexpected, it's untimely but it's a part of life. Lots of love to our friends. May their souls rest in peace.
I completely agree with the aforesaid anonymous comment and urge everyone to always remember our friends by their happy memories and not let this accident create a silence in the lives of those who were already pulled down by it.
I agree.... none of us is ever gonna forget them... they will always stay with us in form of sweet memories...
n as said above its tym 2 pick ourselves up... n take along their friends ahead of the incident...!
n sry i 4got.....
hitoshma u write well....:P
keep it up!!!
"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."
If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man should keep his friendship in constant repair.....
Look back at the past......collect your memories and see....when was the last time you were happy.....were u alone??
No!!.....The most happiest moments we have in our lives is with our friends....no matter what....or where....the strongest bond....and when it breaks....it hurts.....!!
To those, we would really miss...!
nice work hitoshma...!!!!
ya,nice work hitoshma...very eloquently said..and ya i totally agree wid the anonymous person..v need to bring the rest of the guys out of this stage...n may their souls rest in peace...
yes we will miss them.....their memories will always be remembered with a smile and a tear....
really makes you realize importance of friendship ... u wrote it in a very different way.... it is really touchy .... can feel what was inside...
ohhh great rre Hito u hits n it hurted.
frns, their memories, bondings, masti, fun.....
what was the matter of immaturity, u wrote about. I think it is all about realistic thinking and
i alraedy told ur writing skill is not good but its much more better.
i really liked it.
So no immaturity thoughts in u.
Anywaz hav fun but with keep ur aim in mind. then it ll be rocking.
Take care of urself.
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
Quite a bit of what we are expected to say to a very good friend leaving us, I think this is mentioned before as well. Over the time we dont even realise how attached we are to our friends and suddenly when they leave us, its just so awful. The best times in our life are those moments spent with our best friends. We always feel a connection to every song our friend likes. Its so gentle a bond and wen it breaks it hurts a lot...
neways good work and interesting choice of words as well. We would really miss them but wll I have no idea in whose memory is this post written so cant comment on that. But really really nice work.
thanx everyone..
means a lot wen some1 acknowledges wat u hv to say..
jus try avoidin it be anonymous.. would make much sense to me.. :)
This post of yours has added to the sacredness of the relation called "FRIENDSHIP"...True the misery of the family members of the deceased is inconceivable........But what about the misery of persons who stood by him/her in thick n thin...persons who were just a message away..........persons who knew him/her like the back of their palm....persons who understood those unsaid emotions so remarkably......the persons......list is endless....no marks for guessing.....yes these persons are his/her "FRIENDS".....Their grief and their sorrow is equally inconceivable.......so guys love and value your friends.......they and their friendship is priceless.....tell them what they mean to you before its too late...and a genuine request to all those who have lost their close pals...."whenever you think of them have a smile on your face and not tears in your eyes".........because beleive it or not that friend of yours is watching you and will find his/her happiness in your happiness......salute to our friendship which makes life worth living.........
Great piece of work Hiroshima, you have attacked well and reached each and every point.The loss of a friend is invaluable.You know how to attack directly on emotions,visualisations and sense of touch.You ,I mean your writing has touched my heart.
A touching write...
Friends are without a doubt the world especially when in college...the feeling of losing them is very very sad....
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